mandakatt:

asa-de-ouro:

Gentle but firm reminder that expecting selfshippers in their 20s and beyond to ‘move on/let go/unlearn/grow up’ as time goes on because it’s little girl’s stuff doesn’t work like that.

There are many older selfshippers I know that have very, very close bonds with who they love that have been there for years and years. Expecting them to ‘move on’ and get real partners isn’t good.

What they do with their lives is nobody’s business but their own.

Thanks for coming to my TED talk

Gonna add to this with a small story… 

You are never too old for something. If it’s something you like, something you want to learn, something you want to do, or create. 

You are never too old. 

My Mother used to eye roll at me so hard when I was in my 20′s and watched anime. “Aren’t you too old for cartoons?” “That’s for kids.” “Are you ever going to grow up?” To which my answers were. “Nope” “No it’s not, cause if it was you’d say the same thing about Disney movies which you like.” and “Never.”

But time and time again I would prove to her that despite me watching ‘cartoons’ and playing video games, that I was a responsible adult. That I knew when play time would end and that these were the things I used to relax. The things I was interested in that brought me some amazing friends. And eventually she no longer asked if I was going to “Give up/Grow up/Move on” from my interests. She started to ask if I was going to meet friends, or do that ‘anime thing’ on the weekend. 

Before she passed away, [At the young age of 53] she’d come to understand that she too, was not too old for something that she enjoyed. And my mother became a fan of Studio Ghibli, and Dragon ball Z of all things…

You are never too old. 

So my words of wisdom to you? Stop forcing people to give up on things they love just because you were told to do the same and you were forced to give up on things you enjoyed doing.