ihavefriends19:

So clearly none of the SU crits talking about the new arc are married

Sometimes, something so jarring can happen to someone in a relationship, that they need some space and time alone to calm down and process it.

Space is good.

If you force them to talk immediately after something happens, they could blow up and say something they’d regret and even hurt you.

In some situations, they need to find their own space in order to understand their own point of view on the matter. And they’ll really appreciate your understanding and respect for how they handle stressful situations.

When you allow them some time to process, they’ll calm down, and have a more level head and a better idea of what they want to do next.

Of course they’ll come back to you and want to talk about it together, but they want to feel their emotions as their own person first.

Remember, in a relationship you are you, they are them, AND you’re a unit.

Tl;dr Give yourself and your partner time to process stressful situations on your own, and come together when you’re both ready.